The MTU update code is supposed to be invoked in response to real
networking events that update the PMTU. In IPv6 PMTU update function
__ip6_rt_update_pmtu() we called dst_confirm_neigh() to update neighbor
confirmed time.

But for tunnel code, it will call pmtu before xmit, like:
  - tnl_update_pmtu()
    - skb_dst_update_pmtu()
      - ip6_rt_update_pmtu()
        - __ip6_rt_update_pmtu()
          - dst_confirm_neigh()

If the tunnel remote dst mac address changed and we still do the neigh
confirm, we will not be able to update neigh cache and ping6 remote
will failed.

So for this ip_tunnel_xmit() case, _EVEN_ if the MTU is changed, we
should not be invoking dst_confirm_neigh() as we have no evidence
of successful two-way communication at this point.

On the other hand it is also important to keep the neigh reachability fresh
for TCP flows, so we cannot remove this dst_confirm_neigh() call.

To fix the issue, we have to add a new bool param...